Living with a visible difference can sometimes shake our confidence, making us reluctant to join activities we once loved. But with a few simple confidence-boosting exercises, you can feel empowered to start enjoying those experiences again.
Here are three exercises to try. Remember, not every technique works for everyone, so experiment to find what suits you best.
S.M.I.L.E.
Developed by Alison, who has a visible difference, the SMILE method is designed to help navigate challenging situations:
S = Speak: Let your personality shine through; strong conversation skills can help.
M = Mix: Try new hobbies and meet new people; it can be tough but rewarding.
I = Ignore: Dismiss celebrity culture that promotes unrealistic beauty standards.
L = Live: Embrace life, even when it’s difficult. Every experience builds valuable skills.
E = Eye Contact: Maintain eye contact to assert confidence and show engagement.
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FEEL GOOD EXERCISE
This exercise encourages you to reconnect with activities you love. ​
1. Identify what you’ve stopped doing: reflect on activities you’ve given up.​​
2. List enjoyable activities: think of things that boost your confidence, like coffee with friends or a walk.​
3. Consider new things to try: add potential hobbies or places you’ve wanted to explore.​
4. Make a plan: schedule enjoyable activities into your weekly routine, gradually increasing the time you spend on them.
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MOTTO
A personal motto is a powerful tool for boosting self-confidence. Choose a short, uplifting phrase to repeat to yourself, such as “I am strong” or “I am unique and worthy just as I am.” Positive affirmations help counter negative self-talk, and if you’re unsure what to choose, ask friends for suggestions. Use your motto in moments of anxiety, like when you notice someone staring in public, to reinforce your confidence.
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